I’ve been pretty mopey lately. I admit it. Life has not gone in *any* direction I intended. I’m not sure when I was younger that I really gave that much thought to *what* I intended – I think I just thought life was…upper middle class in a nice neighborhood with big houses, no financial worries, and family and friends always around. I missed that day in school or that parental lecture that said “no, you fool – you have to WORK for that. you have to make SMART decisions and not do stupid things and strive to stay on a path towards what you want…otherwise you wind up in the ghetto and alone.” Instead, I just sort of went along, blahdy-blah, and now here I am. Not Where I Would Like To Be. And feeling so far down the rabbit hole that I could not imagine *ever* getting out.
But I’ve noticed an interesting phenomenon over the past 10 years – since I started having some minor, but *very* painful, medical issues. Each bout has lasted about 6 weeks and during that time, pain is pretty much all-consuming. Pain, do I have pain, can I get rid of pain, when will the pain come back, rating the pain, naming the levels of pain, can I make plans for the weekend or will I be in pain…for those 6 weeks it becomes All. About. The. Pain. (and just a side note, these issues are not like life-threatening or anything – just PAINFUL)
The phenomenon is the “banging your head against the wall” rule. And that is that…it feels so good when you stop. And I’m noticing now, as I’m just coming out of my third 6-week All-consuming Pain Phase in 10 years, that AFTERWARDS, it’s like a great FOG has lifted – The Pain Fog – and I feel all newly energized and motivated and ready to go. Caveat – this “you go girl-ness” is in my HEAD. My body sometimes has a hard time keeping up. But at least my brain is churning with ideas about How to Get Out of the Rabbit Hole. Financially, mentally, emotionally, socially.
So. I’m happy to be on The Other Side of the Pain once again. And I’m grateful that my brain is clicking back in and attempting to come up with A Goal and A Plan for getting out of this mess I have created for myself. I’ll keep you posted. I’d love to hear your stories – have you ever felt so low you thought you might never get up again? Were you able to get to a better place?
Photo by me. I thought I deserved a little something, so I got these pink tulips at Trader Joe’s today. I should have gotten chocolate, too.